Many individuals think that their divorce is going to be a nightmare of fights and disagreements. This isn’t always the way that things work. Some couples going through the end of their marriage really are able to make the process calm and easy, even as they continue to move toward their final separation. 

One of the most important things you can do is to set your goals for the divorce early. This will give you an idea of what steps you need to take. You can discuss your wishes with your attorney to ensure they will support a collaborative process, rather than a rush to litigation.

Another thing that might help to reduce your stress level is to remember that not all divorces are the same. What happened to a friend or family member isn’t necessarily what’s going to happen to you. The circumstances of your situation are unique so you need to find out what options you have based on the specifics of your case — not what happened in your cousin’s (or anybody else’s) divorce.

It may also help to have a frank discussion with your spouse about your hopes that you can part amicably. Sometimes couples who have been at each other’s throats for a while can put their differences aside once they realize that the end of the marriage is near and work together for a more peaceful divorce.

Throughout your divorce, make sure that you find out what options you have. Don’t rush into decisions. Instead, think carefully about how each one might impact you and choose the path that’s the most favorable. Remember to consider the immediate effects and the long-term ones, and make sure that you have clear, focused legal assistance throughout the process.