You’ve started planning for divorce. Maybe you haven’t told your spouse yet, but you’re looking into your options and taking preliminary steps to gather the paperwork that you’ll need. It’s clear to you that you are going to end your marriage sooner rather than later.

But when did you first know that this was the right step to take? Everyone’s experience is different. For some, it’s a slow progress of growing apart. For others, there is one key event that they always remember because it made it obvious that divorce was the only option. Some examples include:

  • One woman said that her husband did not support the hobbies that she loved. She loved to sing, and he made her feel bad about enjoying herself while doing them.
  • When counseling failed. One woman said that she knew the whole time it wouldn’t work out. She just hoped he would come to the same conclusion through the counseling process, and he did.
  • A third woman wanted to get more out of life. She tried to convince her husband to have some fun and go on vacation together. He didn’t want to, but she finally talked him into it. Even so, the trip was not the exciting adventure she had craved, as he didn’t want to do anything with her, and she made up her mind to leave the marriage.

When you experience a moment like this, it can change the way that you see your life. There is no reason to remain in a loveless marriage without shared interests or joy. If that leads to divorce, be sure you know what legal steps you’ll need to take.